Twenty-five-year-old Chris Mul-Howard and 11-year-old Reace like to tease each other. Throughout the interview, the two laugh easily and rib each other, once in awhile even giving each other a friendly punch on the arm.
Reace really likes to tease, said Mul-Howard.
To which Reace said: Chris is nice and funny sometimes
The two Richmondites have a special bond, that of Big Brother and Little Brother.
Three years ago, Mul-Howard decided to look into volunteering for Big Brothers of Greater Vancouver (BBGV), a nonprofit organization that matches men with boys who have little to no contact with their fathers.
I wished that I had had a Big Brother when I was growing up, said Mul-Howard.
Although, the assistant manager at the Keg Restaurant was quick to say he had lots of love growing up, he missed having a father figure around.
I was an only child and although I did have a grandfather who was great, its not like having a dad to play sports with or to hang out with, said Mul-Howard, a graduate of Burnett secondary. Because I grew up in a situation similar to a Little Brother, it was important for me to volunteer as a Big Brother.
The two meet once a week, for about three to four hours, typically on the weekends during the school year and in the summer, often on a Wednesday night.
Reaces favourite time so far was when Mul-Howard took him to a Canucks game.
That was really awesome, said Reace with a big smile on his face.
Mul-Howard quipped that being a Big Brother gives him permission to act like a kid again.
I can go see movies like Transformer, that my girlfriend would never go see, and I can go to Lazer Tag, something my friends dont want to do, he said smiling.
For Reace, having Mul-Howard in his life is cool.
I have two sisters so its really nice to have Chris to hang out with, go play football, soccer or hockey with and then go out for something to eat, said Reace, who starts Grade 6 this fall.
When asked how long the process took, Mul-Howard conceded there were many hoops to jump through before BBGV matched him up with Reace.
It was about three months for me, he said. They do a criminal check on you to protect the kids, and then you go through an interview and a training process as well Big Brothers really prepare you well fro what you are about to undertake.
They really make sure you are matched with someone who likes to do the same things you do Reace and I both love sports.
Reace piped in: And food Japanese, Thai.
Both remember their first meeting as being a little nerve-wracking.
I met with Reaces mom first and she described Reace to me, added Mul-Howard. She told me Reace liked poker so we played poker for Skittles that first time.
On a serious note, Mul-Howard went on to add: Its really important for me that Reace has someone there on a constant basis.
Looking at Reace with obvious affection, he added: Its growing into a lifelong relationship when I decided to become a Big Brother, I understood that for me it would probably be a lifelong friendship.
When I learned that I was getting a Big Brother, I was like yeah, said Reace, who waited six months to be matched with Mul-Howard.
In Richmond, there are many young boys waiting for a Big Brother.
We desperately need Big Brothers, our waitlist in Richmond is at least two years, said Michelle Lan, spokesperson for BBGV. We need to spread the word a bit more about Big Brothers in Richmond.
I think maybe the reason people don't want to commit is that they might feel intimidated or think to themselves am I good enough to be a role model, Lan said.
Lan wanted to dispel a few concerns some men may have about becoming a Big Brother.
You are not meant to replace a childs father, volunteers do not need to spend a lot of money on activities and Big Brothers are merely friends who act as positive role models and provide stability for them, said Lan.
Mul-Howard couldnt be happier with the decision he made more than three years ago, when he was only 22 years old.
Its so rewarding and makes me feel really good, he said. I really enjoy my time with Reace.
Lan spoke about a young boy she recently met. Hes been matched for four years now.
He told me that he lived with his mom, grandma and two aunts, with no man in the house, so he really had been missing a male figure, Lan said. He said his Big Brother was one of the best things to happen to him.
Statistics from Big Brothers of Greater Vancouver:
BBGV serves more than 700 children each year.
There are currently 244 Big Brothers matches in the Lower Mainland.
In Richmond, the wait time is currently about 1.5-2 years
There are now seven waitlisted children in Richmond
On average, it takes about six months for a volunteer to be processed before he is ready to be matched (reference checks, criminal record checks, interview, training)
There are 12 Richmond matches right now
BBGV matches boys ages seven to 14
Little Brothers can stay in the program until they reach 18.
The average age of a Big Brother is between 25 and 40
A Big Brother must commit for one year, and meet once a week for two to four hours
For more information about becoming a Big Brother or if you know someone who needs a Big Brother, call BBGV at 604-876-2447 or visit www.bigbrothersvancouver.com. You can apply online to become a Big Brother or call to have an application sent out to you.
